What would be your reaction should your best friend shared the following with you:

I am in a relationship with a gentleman for 17 drama-free years, I have recently found out my dear husband lives a double existence. You would probably imagine that this particular discovery would force me run from this marriage as fast as I could, yet I have stayed. I am probably insane!

What advice would you offer her? And imagine that the above confession came from you. What would YOU say to yourself? What decision would YOU reach? And just so you know, I am the one who was faced with that situation!

That’s the thing. If a friend of mine had come to me for advice for this, I would have said that her marriage was over, especially since the kids were all adults now.

I am not saying that my husband had infidelities in the real meaning. Yet he did call a phone line where adults speak to one another about a variety of issues and the simple reason I know is because our bank called me in order to confirm stated deal as it was the very first time our card was used with a mobile phone sex company. After a quick call with the company involved, I found out that it was indeed my husband who had made the phone call.

And here is the intriguing thing in my opinion: I am not really excessively stressed by my husband’s perceived unfaithfulness, as indeed I do not believe it absolutely was one. No, what perturbs me is that I am bothered by it! So therefore, having uncovered a definite indiscretion from the person I love and have lived my life with, and I am certainly not annoyed by it. Which certainly is the captivating part. And if you assume that I am not bothered by this simply because I am not overly active in the intimacy department, think again. I definitely am. I would rather he had done this with me, but when it is all said and done, it’s no big deal!

I have been thinking about that lately. Imagine that! My husband is intimate with another woman, and I am distressed because I don’t think it’s such a big deal! Yes, you’re right… There’s got to be something wrong with me!

Would it trouble you?

As for phonesex number being (or not) a type of cheating, I am sure it is a conversation that we can have another day.